You messed up and landed in the dog house.

So what’s next?

Yes, send flowers (unless your partner is allergic).

Yes, make the necessary behavioral adjustments.

And yes, apologize profusely.

But don’t just say “sorry” and call it a day.

If you’re genuinely regretful, write a letter to apologize to your girlfriend.

Let her know you understand how you messed up.

Are you terrible at expressing yourself eloquently? 

Fear not — because we’re here to serve as your Cyrano. 

How To Write an Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend (And What Not To Say) 

You probably landed on this page because writing a sorry letter to a girlfriend can be daunting.

You don’t want to make things worse by saying the wrong thing.

We’re breaking down exactly how to pen the best apology letter to your lady, so she knows your remorse is genuine.

But before we get to the prose, let’s review what renders an apology letter dead on arrival.

• Excuses: Sometimes life gets in the way, but don’t load your apology letter with excuses. You may have some minor points — but now is not the time. 
• Deflecting: Don’t deflect blame onto other people when writing an apology. And definitely don’t deflect it onto her. 
• Passive-Aggressive Finger Pointing: Admitting wrong is the opposite of easy. It can be excruciating when we believe we’re in the right. When apologizing from this position, we tend to point the finger in oblique ways passive-aggressively. Refrain from doing this at all costs. 

Instead, use thoughtful, kind, gentle language.

Whether “loving” sentiments are appropriate depends on your relationship status and the magnitude of your crimes.

Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend: 17 Examples to Help You Write Yours

Do you need help writing the perfect apology letter to your girlfriend? Well, you’re in luck. We’re here to lend a linguistic hand. 

Feel free to use these I’m sorry letters to her exactly as is. However, we encourage personalization.

After all, what happens if she Googles your letter and finds out you didn’t really write it?

Sure, some ladies may adopt an it’s-the-thought-that-counts attitude, but others may not be as impressed.

All I Can Do Is Ask for Forgiveness

Dear [Name],

There are no two ways to look at the situation. At the beginning and end of the day, I’m the one who messed up — big time. 

I could say, “I don’t know what got into me!?” or “I was drunk!” But the truth is, I was stupid, thoughtless, and took you for granted. 

You’re understandably upset, and you should be furious. I wish I could erase my mistake, but all I can do now is prove how dreadfully sorry I am and ask for forgiveness.

Can we meet up to talk? 

Sincerely,

[Your Name]

I Really Messed Up

Sweetheart,

I really messed up, didn’t I? You asked that I [insert thing], and I failed to get it done. 

I can hear you in my head, and you’re right: I take you for granted. Too often, I put my superficial leisure needs before important things. And yes, I need to grow up and start being more responsible. 

How can I make this up to you? I need to. I want to prove that I hear you and understand what I need to work on and change.

Please accept my sincerest apologies.

Love you,

[Your Name]

I Pray You Can Forgive Me (Religious)

Dearest Love,

You and I share a deep love for our faith. It’s one of the things I love most about you and our relationship. I hope you can lean on that faith during this challenging time.

I stand before you as a freshly humbled man. I know my actions were beyond wrong. Thinking about how I hurt you deservedly throws me into a shame spiral.

But there’s no way to turn back the clock and take it back. Time is cruel that way. So all I can do is pray that you forgive me.    

I am working on myself and want to be a better man for you. If you can find a way in your heart to forgive me, I’d love to talk soon.

With sincere apologies,

[Your Name]

I’m Miserable Without You

Honey, please listen.

I understand you’re seething mad and don’t want to talk. I’d feel the same way if the situation was reversed. But there I go again, always talking about myself. This shouldn’t be about how I feel.

You’re absolutely right on that front, and being more considerate of others’ feelings is something I must work on.

But right now, all I know is that I am achingly miserable without you. Please come home, sweetie. We can work through this together.

Reach out whenever you’re ready — if you’re ever ready.

Sadly,

[Your Name]

Life Is Hard Without You

Wonderful [Name],

We’ve been apart for a [day/week/month/year/decade], and my life is worse off for it. What can I say? Life is hard without you.

The days drone on, and life is a series of half-connections, polite jibber-jabber, and conversations about things I care nothing about.

My days were joyful, engaging, and manageable when we were together. We filled each other’s hearts and minds. I had my person. Now, I’m just an empty shell on a conveyor belt.

Can we talk? Please? Life is too hard without you.

I’m so sorry for everything. The lying. The infidelity. The immaturity. Please give me a second chance.

I love you still,

[Your Name]

I’m Not Great at Apologies

Hi Sweetie,

You’ve known from the start that I’m not an eloquent [man/woman]. Pretty words don’t come easily to me. And truth be told, I’m also not the best at apologizing.

So forgive me if I do this incorrectly, but please know that I am very sorry for [insert what happened].

I’d give everything to come up with the right words to convey how sorry I am. If you can, please find a way to forgive me. My love for you is immense, and the last thing I want to do is live without you in my life.

With remorse,

[Your Name]

I Promise To Do Better

To the best person I know:

I know words aren’t going to move you right now. The only thing I can do is prove my sorrow through my actions.

Baby, I promise to do better. And I don’t expect you to believe me right off the bat. I know it will take time for me to earn your trust back.

Please allow me to demonstrate my regret and change my ways. We all make mistakes, and this incident was definitely at the top of my list.

I love you,

[Your Name]

I Work Way Too Much

Dear [Nickname],

You’ve always been worried about my work-a-holic issue, and I swore I’d always make time for you.

But I’ve broken my vow. I’ve let work take over. I’ve behaved like an ass, always putting office matters before you.

I need to find a therapist and get to work on my priorities. The last thing I want to do is lose you and know that if I don’t shape up quickly, that’s bound to happen.

Please try to understand that I work so much because I want to give you everything you want and deserve. Providing for you is my love language.

I’ve already talked to [boss’s name] and will be making some scheduling changes. Positive change is afoot. I’m not just talking a big game this time — I’ve already taken action.

Darling, I am sorry and hope you’ll recognize my sincerity. Within weeks, we’ll be living a life of balance — together.

Please hang in there for another couple of weeks,

Your [Nickname]

You’re Incredible

Dearest [Name],

I’ll never figure out how a guy like me ended up with a goddess like you. I cannot believe how badly I messed up. 

My mother said I was a dumbass — and she was right. I may have just messed up the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

I’m wrong. I know I’m wrong. And I will do everything in my power to win you back and prove that I will never harm you again. These aren’t just words. I’m on a mission to prove my love for you, the most incredible person in the world. 

In shame,

[Your Name]

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We’re Going To Be Parents

Hi Honey,

You set down the law. You were clear: Drinking with the boys after work would have to end. After all, we’re going to be parents. Not only do we need to save money, but I need to get in the habit of being around for my family.

And you’re right! You and the baby must be my top priority right now.

I don’t know what got into me last night. At the very least, I should have called you to let you know. Instead, I was cowardly and left you worrying for a couple of hours.

What can I say? I was a complete and utter jerk.

I promise never to do it again. If something comes up, I’ll catch you up. But more importantly, hanging with the boys will no longer take priority over my family. 

Your changed man,

[Name]

I Know It Will Take Time

Dearest [Name],

I messed up big time and know it will take time to get back to normal. It’s impossible to brush things like this under the carpet and pretend they didn’t happen.

I’m not going to sit here and make excuses. You deserve much better than that. Besides, there is no excuse for my behavior. I was rude, irresponsible, and immature.

You’re right: I need to stop behaving like I’m still in college. It’ll get me nowhere fast.

Please tell me what I can do to turn things around. Your wish is my command.

Again, sweetie, I am genuinely sorry. Let me make it up to you.

Love,

Your [Nickname]

I’m Sorry I Hurt Your Feelings

My Dear,

I’m so sorry I hurt your feelings. And I don’t mean that dismissively. I’m genuinely mortified I said what I said. How thoughtless could I get!? I wasn’t thinking in any way, shape, or form.

It may seem like I take you for granted, and what I said certainly wasn’t respectful. But I want you to know I think you’re the most impressive, wonderful, beautiful person I have ever met in my life, and I think the world of you.

So, from now on, I will think before I let something dumb shoot out of my mouth.

I hope you decide to stick with me and see that I can change for the better.

You’re the best. No, you’re better than the best. Can you forgive me?

Woefully,

[Name]

How About We Share Calendars?

Hey You,

I was unconscionably inconsiderate last week. We’d made plans, but I forgot and scheduled [insert thing]. I know it looks like I value [insert thing], but I promise the opposite is true.

No one is more important than you, and I’m prepared to do a much better job of showing you how much I mean that.

I’m sorry about how everything worked out. However, I have a potential solution. Why don’t we share our Google calendars? That way, we’re on the same page. Plus, it’s a way to be completely transparent with one another.

To be clear: I’m not asking you to manage my schedule. I messed up. This is on me. And it’s something I will get better at on my own. My goal is to make you feel more a part of my life.

So how about dinner next week? Your choice. I promise not to leave you waiting all night this time! I’m here when you’re ready to talk. I love you, sweetness — and I’m truly, deeply sorry for the confusion.

Hope to hear from you soon,

[Name]

Do You Still Love Me?

Hi Sweet [Name],

It’s been a while since we last spoke. I wanted to give you time. You deserve that.

But it’s been weeks, and you’re still the first thing I think about when I wake and the last thing on my mind before bed.

I know I messed up royally. Furthermore, I’m not pretending like I didn’t realize my actions were a deal breaker. You made that very clear from the very beginning.

And though I stupidly messed up, I swear up and down, forward and backward, that I will not make the same mistake twice.

I still love you more than can be expressed in words. If you still have a spark of affection for me, let’s try to work it out. At the very least, let’s meet up for a meal and at least talk.

Shamefully,

[Name]

I’m Seeking Help

Dear [Name],

As always, you’re right.

This morning, I poured out all the alcohol I had left. For me, “just one drink” isn’t possible. To that end, I’m climbing onto the wagon.

These are not just words and empty promises. I’m checking myself into a program today as well. You’ve put up with too much because I couldn’t take responsibility for my destructive actions.

No more. You deserve better.

I pray we can fix things. My life won’t be the same without you.

When you’re ready, please consider giving me a call so we can start talking about everything. I love you; I love the kids; I apologize for everything I’ve done. If you find a way to take me back, everything will be different — better different.

I value you,

[Name]

It Was Inexcusable

Dearest,

I know I’ve betrayed you in the worst possible way, and I couldn’t be more sorry. There’s nothing I can say to change what I did, although if I could only get one wish granted, it would be to erase what I did.

The situation and fallout have made me realize how lucky I am to have you in my life. I adore and cherish you, and I understand if you can’t trust me anymore. But I hope you’ll see my sincerity and let me start making it up to you.

I know you need some time to mull things over, so everything is up to you. Please know that you’re on my mind constantly, and all I want to do is make sure you’re happy and safe.

You’re incredible,

[Name]

Please Take Me Back

Beautiful [Name],

I’m not above begging. So here’s a list of five reasons you should take me back.

• I’m pathetic and need you to make me less so.
• I promise to be the best partner ever to exist if you give me one more chance.
• I’ll satisfy every single one of your wants and needs. You’ll never want for anything ever again.
• You’re an incredible, kind, forgiving person who knows I can do better.
• I love you!

Please, babe. Let’s just put this behind us and keep growing. We’re an incredible couple who are better together.

Sorrowfully,

[Your Name]

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Remember: Sincere sorries go a long way. So go ahead and let your apology flag fly. Just make sure you follow through on what you promise. Good luck!